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I Stopped Trying to Make My Parents Proud (Immigrant Daughter Core)

I Stopped Trying to Make My Parents Proud (Immigrant Daughter Core)

For years, I believed that being a good daughter meant becoming someone I never chose. As the firstborn child of immigrant parents and being adopted, I spent most of my life striving to 'make it' in ways that would make them proud. Slowly, that dream turned into a script I didn’t write.


In this episode, I explore the turning point where I realized my life was built on performance, guilt, and obligation, not truth. I discuss the fear of disappointing your parents, the fantasies they project onto you, and the silent resentment that builds when you betray yourself in the name of love.


If you're navigating identity and expectations or trying to choose your own path without betraying your roots, this episode is for you. Remember, sometimes choosing yourself is the most honoring thing you can do.


#immigrant experience, #authenticity, #family expectations, #self-discovery, #autonomy, #identity


Timeline

00:00:The pressure of being chosen

02:28:Chasing a dream that wasn’t mine

04:28:The moment I chose myself

06:06:Breaking free from their expectations

07:49:What autonomy really means

10:10:The actions that helped me unlearn it all

12:47:Closing thoughts for those trying to break free