Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns (Even When You Know Better) with Sabrina Zohar
Why do we keep repeating relationship patterns we know aren’t good for us?
In this episode, I sit down with Sabrina Zohar to talk about what’s actually happening underneath the people we chase, the relationships we struggle to let go of, and the dynamics we swear we’ll never repeat again.
We get into how childhood experiences create what Sabrina calls our “bullshit blueprint” — the subconscious programming that shapes what feels familiar, safe, and even attractive to us as adults.
We also discuss why understanding your patterns intellectually isn’t enough to change them, what it actually means to embody self-worth, and how to move from chasing and needing to be chosen to becoming the person who chooses.
In this episode, we cover:
- How childhood wounds shape the relationships you choose as an adult
- Sabrina’s “bullshit blueprint” and the subconscious programming running your love life
- Why your brain will always choose familiar over healthy until you rewire it
- The difference between knowing your worth and actually embodying it
- How to tell when you’re responding to the person in front of you versus something from your past
- Navigating anger, forgiveness, and holding compassion for yourself without excusing past behavior
- Why real healing requires repetition, not just intellectual understanding
- How to shift from chasing and being chosen to actively choosing your partner
- What healthy, regulated love actually feels like
- Why “I want you, but I don’t need you” is the ultimate power shift
If you’ve done a ton of work on yourself, understand your patterns, and still find yourself getting pulled back into the same dynamics, this conversation is for you.
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Timeline
00:00:Introduction to Sabrina Zohar and her journey
01:10:How Sabrina’s past shaped her approach to relationships
03:04:The evolution of relationship advice and authenticity
04:54:What it actually means to embody self-worth and integrity
08:02:Compassion, healing, and inner-child wounds
13:58:Anger, forgiveness, and making peace with past hurts
18:53:Letting go of control and learning to trust
22:21:The “bullshit blueprint”: childhood programming and subconscious patterns
26:34:How old wounds get triggered in present-day relationships
36:54:The shift from chasing to choosing
44:33:Why repetition is necessary to actually rewire your patterns
50:52:What healthy love and self-acceptance really look like