In this episode of the You Will Be OK Podcast, I talk about how to date without desperation — and why self-worth is the real key to attracting healthy love.

I break down the difference between wanting a relationship and needing one, how comparison and envy sabotage your confidence, and why high standards should be rooted in values — not fear or avoidance. We also talk about pacing in early dating, emotional safety, ghosting, disappointment, and how to stop overinvesting too quickly.

If you struggle with anxious attachment, overthinking, or feeling behind in your love life, this episode will help you shift from chasing validation to building a life that feels full — so love becomes an addition, not a rescue.

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In this episode, I sit down with relationship coach Casey Caston to break down what actually makes relationships work — and why love alone is rarely enough.
We talk about the biggest misconceptions around dating and long-term relationships, why trust (not chemistry) is the real foundation, and how personal growth, accountability, and repair determine whether a relationship thrives or falls apart. Casey also shares insights from his own relationship journey and the tools he teaches clients to build healthier, more secure connections.

Key takeaways:
-If you want a better relationship, you have to become a better you
-Conflict is healthy and necessary when done well
-Trust matters more than love
-Unsolicited apologies change everything
-Most relationships can be repaired with intention and effort

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In this episode, I talk about something many of us go through but rarely have language for: the Dark Night of the Soul. It’s that period where everything feels like it’s falling apart—emotionally, spiritually, identity-wise—and you don’t recognize yourself or your life anymore. I break down where this concept comes from, what it actually feels like when you’re in it, and why it’s not a sign that you’re broken or doing life wrong.

I share how the Dark Night is often a necessary collapse—an ending of old identities, coping mechanisms, and survival strategies that once protected you but no longer fit. We talk about grief, surrender, and the discomfort of sitting in the unknown instead of trying to fix or bypass it. I also explain why trying to “positive-think” your way out of this phase usually backfires, and why feeling the pain is often the doorway to real healing.

Most importantly, I offer reassurance and perspective for anyone in the middle of it right now. This isn’t the end of your story—it’s a turning point. With self-care, support, and a willingness to let the process unfold, something new and more aligned is being born on the other side. The darkness has a purpose, and the dawn really does come.

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In this episode, I sit down with Cole Zesiger, a breakup coach whose work was born from his own deeply painful heartbreak. Cole shares how that experience reshaped his understanding of love, loss, and healing—and ultimately led him to help others navigate the aftermath of breakups with more clarity and self-respect.

We explore the emotional complexity of breakups, why so many people become consumed with the idea of getting their ex back, and how much of the online breakup advice focuses on strategy over actual healing. Cole breaks down the most common mistakes people make after a breakup, why staying in contact often keeps wounds open, and how rebuilding self-worth—not manipulation or timing—is what truly allows people to move forward.

This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice and dives into emotional patterns, forgiveness, and the inner work required to trust again and build healthier relationships in the future.

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In this episode, I share my personal journey of healing a disorganized attachment style—the push-pull dynamic that kept showing up in my relationships for years. I talk about how my upbringing shaped the way I learned to attach, the coping mechanisms I developed to survive, and the moment I realized attachment styles aren’t fixed.

I walk through what actually helped me heal: building self-awareness, creating emotional safety, confronting shame, and learning how to be vulnerable without abandoning myself. I also share practical tools that helped me reconnect with my emotions and rebuild my sense of self-worth.

This episode is a reminder that healing is a process, not a personality trait—and with patience, commitment, and the right support, it’s possible to move toward secure, healthy love.

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Ever feel like you're self-sabotaging just as life starts getting better? Or frustrated that you're not "further along" in your personal growth journey?
In this reflective year-end episode of You Will Be Okay, I open up about the subtle but profound transformation I've experienced over the past year—and what true, sustainable change really looks like in real life.

Key takeaways you'll get:

- Why change doesn't have to start on January 1st (and why we often hit rock bottom right before breakthroughs)
- The truth about self-sabotage and the hidden fears that arise when stability finally shows up
- Navigating the "messy middle"—that unglamorous phase where real growth happens, even when it feels stagnant
- How motivation fades fast, but consistency and building emotional resilience create lasting results
- Why unrealistic expectations and old coping mechanisms hold us back—and how to break free
- Practical ways to sit with discomfort and build the emotional capacity needed for change that sticks

If you've ever backslid during progress, felt stuck in frustration, or wondered why growth feels so slow, this episode is your reminder: You're not alone, and pushing through anyway is the key to moving forward.

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In this episode, I break down anxious attachment—what it actually is, where it comes from, and why it can make love feel so overwhelming. I talk about how anxious attachment often forms in childhood, how it shows up as overthinking, fear of abandonment, and self-sabotage in relationships, and why so many people end up relying on others for reassurance instead of trusting themselves.

More importantly, I walk you through how to heal it. I share practical tools for recognizing triggers, regulating your nervous system, challenging anxious thought patterns, and rebuilding self-esteem so your relationships stop feeling like emotional rollercoasters. If you’ve ever felt like you care “too much,” get attached too fast, or lose yourself in relationships, this episode will help you understand why—and show you that anxious attachment is not a life sentence.

This conversation is about moving from fear to security, from chasing to choosing, and from anxiety to self-trust—so you can create healthier, calmer, more fulfilling connections.

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In this episode, I sit down with writer and speaker Amanda McCracken, who shares her deeply personal journey as a late-in-life virgin — a story that’s so much more layered than people realize. We talk about how purity culture shaped her beliefs around sex and relationships, the misconceptions she had to untangle about virginity and self-worth, and how those early narratives followed her well into adulthood.

Amanda also breaks down limerence — that intoxicating, obsessive pull toward unavailable partners — and explains the science behind longing and why dopamine can keep us hooked on fantasy instead of grounded, healthy love.

We explore how she began healing through somatic work, how reconnecting with her body changed everything, and how her family dynamics influenced the kind of love she chased. Her story is such a powerful example of what happens when you start choosing yourself, building self-worth, and stepping out of old patterns.

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In this episode, I break down why men pull away in relationships — and why it isn’t always a sign that something is wrong. I talk about the difference between healthy distance and avoidant attachment, and I share the psychological patterns behind withdrawal that most women never learn to recognize.

I also get into the common mistakes women make when a man pulls back, including overanalyzing, seeking reassurance, or unknowingly creating pressure. Instead, I walk you through how to stay grounded, self-regulated, and confident while giving space in a way that actually strengthens the connection.

Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or navigating anxious-avoidant dynamics, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.

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In today’s episode, we’re diving deep into attachment styles — what they are, how they shape your relationships, and most importantly, how to heal them.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner… why you get anxious when you really like someone… why vulnerability feels difficult… or why the people you date pull away just when things get close — this episode is going to make your entire romantic history make sense.

We break down:

- The 4 attachment styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant
- How childhood experiences shape your nervous system and your patterns in love
- How attachment shows up in dating, communication, conflict, and intimacy
- The difference between an avoidant partner and someone who simply isn’t that into you
- Why anxious and avoidant partners are magnetically drawn to each other
- And most importantly — how to build secure attachment, no matter where you’re starting from

This isn’t about labels or blaming your past. This is about building the tools to feel safe in love, stop abandoning yourself for connection, and finally experience relationships that are stable, healthy, and fulfilling.


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